4w3 Vs 3w4 Enneagrams (3 Point Guide)

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This article will take a look at the differences present between the 4w3 and 3w4 enneagrams in terms of their relationships, workplace practices, strengths and their fears and desires too. The article will also introduce both of these enneagram types to the audience.

4w3 Vs 3w4 Enneagrams: What Makes Them Different?

The major difference between the 3w4 and 4w3 enneagram is that the 4w3 enneagram can be somewhat creative and artistic as well as social to some extent but the 3w4 enneagram is very introverted in their behaviour. The 3w4 enneagram is also more serious, ambitious and focused in their overall approach to life and their work.

The differences between the 4w3 and 3w4 enneagram can be highlighted in the following areas:

  • The Workplace
  • Relationships
  • Strengths
  • Desires & Fears

We will explain how they differ from each other in the above highlighted areas. However, before we do that, we will introduce both of them to the readers.

The Experts – Enneagram 3w4s

This special enneagram type takes on most of the traits of the type 3 enneagram but also shares some traits from the type 4 enneagram. These individuals are very much serious in what they believe in or do. They are ambitious and very focused on their goals or careers. They are fully equipped mentally to take up any challenges that erupt when they are on their journey towards success.

Compared to other 3 type enneagrams, they are more career oriented but introverted at the same time. This allows them to be more focused in their approach. Also they have much more time to work and think over things that need their attention and focus. These enneagrams also define their own self in terms of the work they do. It becomes a part of their self identity and they own it. This is because they are very task focused.

Most of their focus is on their professional development – they aren’t called experts for no reason! They want to know how far they can go in their career and how they can do that. Not only do they work but they also study on how to excel in their field. The 3w4 enneagram wants to gain success in their life – whatever their definition is of what! They are hence career oriented and focus most of their life around their career. They want to be recognized for what they do and gain approval from others. Not in the typical way that people desire fame but in a way that acknowledges their abilities and achievements.

These personality types are indeed introverts! They think and process things internally which means they will use their mental processes to understand and make sense of information rather than talk to other people about it or engage in brainstorming sessions! They like to spend time by themselves and reflect over their own self, work and achievements and what they want to do in the future. Being alone can be a relaxing activity for this enneagram type.

What Is The Enneagram Type 4w3?

The enneagram type 4w3 is known as the ‘Aristocrat’ and even sometimes as the ‘Enthusiast’. They are one of the enneagram types that are known for their sensitivity and introspection. 

These individuals like to keep some distance between themselves and others not because they dislike people but because they realize they are sensitive and vulnerable. As a result they may seem aloof or self centered but can be very expressive at times. Sometimes they may even seem dramatic or moody! However, they are usually very careful in their dealings with others and prefer to maintain a safe distance.

These enneagram types like to spend time in their head; they are pretty creative and come up with many unique and interesting ideas that can encourage new things or help solve problems. The aristocrat is also emotionally honest and realizes what they feel; they will be expressive but can sometimes be considered moody. However, the same enneagram type can engage in self pity and persistent feelings of sadness. They are also too indulged in their own selves and may not notice what is going on around them.

4w3 & 3w4 Enneagrams: How Are They Different?

The 4w3 and 3w4 enneagram behave differently in the following areas:

  • The Workplace
  • Relationships
  • Strengths
  • Desires & Fears

In this article, we will comment on the differences between the 4w3 and 3w4 enneagram with regards to the following areas:

Strengths

One of the strengths the 3w4 enneagram has is that of being able to identify areas of self growth. They are obsessed about excelling in their own fields and won’t let the opportunity of learning go from their hands. Furthermore, these individuals are able to pay attention to the small details in things. They are efficient workers who make the best of the available resources to them. Although introverts, they have no issues connecting with others for their purpose and this is because they have developed great people skills.

Other than being very creative and artistic, the 4w3 enneagram is able to connect with others in a way that they can understand the motivation behind their behaviours and thus understand the person at a very deep level.

Workplace Practices

3w4 enneagrams enjoy work when they are given realistic goals that they can actually achieve. They feel awesome when their work is recognized and they are given value. Furthermore, they like to work at places that try to understand their career aspirations and give them opportunities accordingly. However, too many failures and not being able to connect with others for work can greatly demotivate these people.

This enneagram feels motivated when they can fully express themselves at their workplace. Also, the 4w3 enneagram loves it when they are appreciated for their work and their hard work is recognized and praised. They feel much satisfaction when they achieve their goals.

Relationships

Although they may lack on the emotional side of things, the 3w4 enneagram is able to notice the small things in relationships and connect to their partners for bigger purposes or work they enjoy doing together. However, because of their focus – constant focus – on work, their significant other may feel left out and disconnected. Also, it is difficult for these individuals to accept loss or failure and they may become moody that adversely affects the relationship.

Sometimes the 4w3 enneagram can react negatively because they are unable to regulate their emotions properly. Hence, relationships may be a point where they need to work harder.

Desires & Fears

The 3w4 enneagram is afraid of failure and they will do anything to avoid this! Hence they throw themselves head first into their careers and work very hard. The 3w4 enneagram desires to be successful and validated to the extent that they adapt their own self greatly to their environment.

The basic fear of the 4w3 enneagram is that they will have no identity and hence not be known by others, instead they will remain in the shadows where they are a ‘nobody’. They want to be somebody hence they perceive themselves as someone who is special or different from others and this compensates for their fear of being without an identity.

The aristocratic personality is scared they will be meaningless; this means they won’t have any purpose or identity with which they can define themselves. Their thoughts become so negative that they feel they will never live the life other people live because they have no importance in life; they look down upon themselves. Enneagrams of this type describe this feeling as if they are invisible and feel this feeling will always last.

It is now obvious what the desire is of the typical aristocrat personality; they want to possess an identity that they can be known or recognized by so that they hold some meaning in life. This will help them achieve what it is in life whether it is their dream job, the relationships they have always wanted or the lifestyle they wanted to adopt.

It is important to note that this enneagram type also wants to be unique and not just like everybody else. This is somewhat contradictory to the entire issue they face; they want to be like others to enjoy what they have but at the same time be different enough to be known individually. They will try to change their own selves or point out others for their mistakes. The aristocrat may also incorporate changes in their appearance to stand out.

Conclusion

This article took a deep dive into the differences that exist between the 3w4 and 4w3 enneagram in a number of areas such as strengths, traits, work, relationships and their fears and desires.

References

https://www.crystalknows.com/enneagram/type-3/wing-4

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