Demigirl (The Best Guide)

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This article will primarily focus on what a demigirl is and who may identify with this term. Furthemore, the article will look at possible reasons why people may feel like this and also include the definitions of a ‘demigirl’ as defined by people who associate with this term.

Demigirl – A New Identity?

A demigirl is a term used to describe someone who identifies with some but not all aspects of femininity; this means they may feel like a woman but not completely like a woman to fully identify as one hence they are termed as a demigirl. There are other terms that are used interchangeably to that of a demigirl such a demiwoman, demilady and demifemale.

Anyone can be a demigirl. In some cases it may be someone who is an AFAB which is a term that stands for ‘Assigned Female At Birth’ and refers to a person who was assigned the gender of a female at birth however may identify somewhat as a man hence they are not someone who is either fully feminine or masculine. It is also possible that someone’s gender may lean towards that of a female more but they also identify as a man or non binary identity; they will also be considered a demigirl.

A person who is assigned as a male at birth and hence known as an AMAB can also be called a demigirl if they strongly or weakly identify to a female gender identity; however this is not such a strong feeling that they fully associate it to this category. 

Nonetheless, in any case, a person who identifies as a female only to a certain but not full extent is considered a demigirl.

Is A Demigirl Non-Binary?

Yes a demigirl is someone who identifies as a non binary because they do not fit completely into either of the male or female categories. This means that they do not agree with what the society deems as a male or female.

What Is Gender Fluidity – Is It The Same As ‘Demi’

Gender fluidity refers to the state, or constantly changing state of gender, where a person may stay open to what gender they identify with; this means that they may feel like a woman one day or a man the next or neither – there is simply no restriction on how they feel or identify. They choose to remain fluid in this context of gender and do not want to stick to one gender or identity as most of society does. These people recognize that there feelings change especially with regards to who they are and hence they refuse to not change with their state of mind and body. They simply go with the flow and identify according to how they feel.

How Do People Describe A Demigirl?

In this section, we will take a look at popular definitions provided by people from the LGBTQ+ community!

  • demigirl: an identity leaning more towards feminine, but not quite identifying as a female. This can mean someone afab who feels a disconnect from their gender, but still feels more feminine than nonbinary or masculine, or someone amab who is transfeminine but not wholly binary, who feels more feminine than masculine or nonbinary, but not enough to identify fully as female. Basically “I’m a girl, but not really”. A demigirl will probably use she/her pronouns or they/them. Demigirl can be an in between space between a feminine and nonbinary identity


I’m a demigirl and a lesbian, currently questioning other nonbinary identities.

  • Someone who identifies partly as a girl, but also as non-binary. Usually preferring she and they pronouns. I identify as a demigirl, afab I’m usually referred to by she/her pronouns, I’m ok with this but it makes me somewhat uncomfortable. People that I’ve come out to will now sometimes use they pronouns, which feels more right to me.

Samantha Egnew

15, Demigirl (she/they pronouns)

  • Demigirl: Identifying as feeling partly a woman, but also feeling partly of another gender. Often used when someone identifies as feminine genders, but does not wholly know what other genders they may identify as. A sort of middle ground between binary woman and nonbinary. Not to be confused with bigender. This term has made me feel like I belong; that I’m not a confused identity floating in the wind. This term allows me to get some sort of grasp on who I am, as identifying partly as something and not knowing the other part(s) I identify as can be hard and discouraging.

I am a Caucasian high school student who identifies as a panromantic asexual demigirl

  • Demigirl is a gender identity describing someone who partially, but not wholly, identifies as a woman, girl or otherwise feminine, whatever their assigned gender at birth. They may or may not identify as another gender in addition to feeling partially a girl or woman. I’m an AMAB Demigirl and for me, I’d describe it as never feeling male, but then not feeling like a woman enough to want to actually be one…although it wouldn’t bother me if I was born one. It’s kinda hard to describe, but it’s like knowing 100% that I’m female but not a woman. I’m fine with my body (it is what it is) but I do not and never will identify as the same gender. I’m disconnected from my body, but yet still okay with having it. I know gender non-binary is real things and I do identify with it and understand the concept of being a woman but not totally because you’re part something else. For me though, that’s unimportant. What is important is that I’m comfortable with my male body, but feel feminine and have a desire to outwardly express it…it’s just that sometimes I feel less or more feminine than other times, but never feel anything else but female. There might be other aspects to my gender, since I’m not totally a woman, but I identify as female and have a desire to outwardly express it so whatever else I am, I’m not too concerned about. I’ve spent years entertaining the idea of “I’m male” but after admitting that not only is that not true and “I’m female” is, I find I’m hiding a lot less things (like, you know, zero) from myself to maintain my gender identity. But, the best part (other than gender euphoria and the lack of confusion and hiding from myself) is what it feels like to know, without a doubt, that something is true. No matter how much anyone says it isn’t or even if you didn’t want it to be…it is. I know for a fact that Demigirl is a real thing because being one myself proves it. In the simplest terms possible it means that I have a desire to express myself as a female, to whatever degree I desire and whatever time I desire it, otherwise I’m not expressing my true self.

Catwomansgirlfriend – AMAB Demigirl

Why Do People Identify With Different Genders Regardless Of Their Sex?

In this section, we will take a look at some possible reasons as to why people identify with different genders when they may belong to a different sex or possibly no sex at all.

Accepting Yourself

The first reason why people may identify as a different gender is because that is how they truly are. They may be a man but they actually feel like a woman or they may be a woman but they do not get that entire feminine feeling other women experience. As a society and possibly as a species, we are comfortable with things being in black and white; if we need a response then we need it in either a ‘Yes’ or ‘No – anything in between confuses us. If we want to know who is right we do not want to get into the complexities or accept the fact that both sides in a fight may actually be right especially if they are looking at things from their own angle.

Similarly, if we are assigned a female gender at birth then we expect that this specific person will feel like a woman their entire life. However, keeping in mind how complex this world is, it should not be surprising if someone feels this way and decides to acknowledge it.

A Defense Mechanism

Just as the world is complex, so is our body and hence we sometimes engage in very odd or strange behaviours to deal with stress or anxiety. We may become an entirely different person compared to who we were before!

In this case, it is possible someone may identify as a woman even though they are a man because they are unable to deal with the stresses of being a man in their culture, society or nation. They may be disgusted by what men or women in their society do and hence they will associate with the opposite gender.

Thus, identifying as a demiwoman or demiman can also be a defense mechanism that has deeper reasons rather than just feeling a certain way.

Bad Experiences

Sometimes we have bad experiences with people of the other gender and because society has put so many restrictions on us we find ways to evade our problems and create a better world for our own selves. Many times, men and women have a hard time in relationships with the other gender; they may be ghosted, cheated on or divorced despite being a good partner. 

The blow they receive from such an experience may be so devastating that they either begin to hate the other gender or their own gender; afterall, in such situations you need to blame someone because this is human nature. Thus, they may decide to identify as a new gender to avoid being with people of a certain gender or get the chance to be with people that are associated with the gender this specific person was previously associated with.

A Mental Disorder

In the past, feeling something like this was considered a mental disorder despite the fact that what people felt may have definitely been genuine. Sometimes we become the prey of serious mental conditions that affect how we behave or think. In some cases, people may begin hearing or seeing things that do not exist. In serious cases people have even begun speaking different languages. In other cases they may have adopted various personalities at the same time or an entirely different one. Although there is nothing wrong with such behaviours if they were naturally occurring, they are not appropriate because they are the result of a mental disorder. So for example, there is nothing wrong with speaking a different language but if it occurs because of a mental disorder then there is an issue.

Similarly, one effect that a mental disorder may have on our body and mind is that we do not feel like we used to before in terms of the gender we are usually associated with.


This article took a look at the meaning of a demigirl and how people describe this term. The article also focused on other important terms that are often used in close proximity. Lastly, the article provided some possible reasons why someone may identify as a demigirl.


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