8w9 Vs 9w8: Enneagram Types (A 4 Point Guide)

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This article will not only introduce the 9w8 and 8w9 enneagram types but also comment on how they behave in different areas of life such as the workplace and in relationships as well as their traits and basic fears and desires.

The 8w9 Vs 9w8 Enneagrams: How Are They Different?

One of the major differences between the 8w9 and 9w8 enneagrams is that the 9w8 is more passive and will allow others to run over them – they won’t really take a stand unless they have to because they want to avoid conflict at any cost. The 8w9 enneagram, on the other hand, has more influence from the type 8 enneagram hence they are assertive and bold and will speak up and also try to dominate others until the wing 9 kicks in.

In this article, we will analyze the differences between the two in the following areas:

  • The Workplace
  • Relationships
  • Strengths
  • Desires & Fears

We will explain how they differ from each other in the above highlighted areas. However, before we do that, we will introduce both of them to the readers.

Enneagram 8w9: The Diplomat

This enneagram type is confident and patient but at the same time protective and will strike if required. However, compared to type 8 enneagrams, they are more gentle and easy going. They prefer to remain calm and stress free when it comes to tasks that are due or responsibilities that they have – it is better to remain calm rather than fret about what one needs to do!

At the same time, these enneagrams enjoy the independence they have and dislike taking orders from other people, especially authority figures. They want to do things their own way in a manner that is easy and comfortable for them. It’s my way or the highway for them! Whether its work, school or any program they are enrolled in, they want to be able to have the liberty of engaging in self paced courses that allow them a great deal of flexibility; they appreciate programs or systems where they are given the end goal and given the freedom to pursue it in a manner that is acceptable to them.

However, this type of enneagram also has issues related to their emotions – especially the regulation of emotions. They do not feel very comfortable expressing their emotions to others possibly because of the fear they have – they do not want to be controlled or manipulated by others. Hence, they will not always express how they feel about someone or something and keep this to themself.

What Is The Enneagram Type 9w8?

The enneagram type 9w8 associates with the type 9 mostly but also shares traits from the type 8 enneagram. Compared to other type 9 enneagrams, these types are more outspoken and like to take more risks! 

These individuals like to remain out of harm’s way but they have this innate urge to be assertive hence they have conflicting traits due to the fact that they share traits from two different enneagrams. So they tend to avoid conflict but if pushed a lot they will speak up and won’t back down at all! So be careful when you deal with them. They may seem harmless and easy to take advantage of but they will fight back if you exceed the boundaries they have set up!

These individuals like to simplify issues they are facing. If something is very stressful they will like to avoid it completely but in other cases they will try to minimize the magnitude of problems they experience. This may be very soothing in the initial term but as things go along, the problem will start becoming bigger and bigger and eventually the enneagram will have to face the music. They can’t run away from problems forever.

All in all, this enneagram is creative and optimistic. They are supportive and engage well with people because they are sociable. They are comfortable talking to people and enjoy the experience because they get to learn new things, can figure out what is going on around them and what things, if any, they need to be aware of.

Now that we have a general idea of this enneagram, we will take a deeper look at its personality by looking at its fears and desires!

9w8 Vs 8w9 Enneagrams: How Are They Different?

The 9w8 and 8w9 enneagram behave differently in the following areas:

  • The Workplace
  • Relationships
  • Strengths
  • Desires & Fears

In this article, we will comment on the differences between the 9w8 and 8w9 enneagram with regards to the following areas:

Strengths

The 9w8 is great at adapting to new situations and environments and can also assert their stance without any hesitation! They also support others and their opinions as well as speak up for people who have been wronged. This enneagram is a great leader that knows how to garner support and ensure people are being inspired and taken care of while working towards a goal.

On the other hand, the 8w9 enneagram is naturally energetic and has the ability to see one thing or story from different angles. It helps them develop a deeper understanding about things and hence be more acceptable and sensitive towards people of all backgrounds. They give attention to the needs of others and are also great leaders.

Workplace Practices

The 8w9 enneagram type feels motivated when they can lead others and make their own decisions. Also, they greatly appreciate it when they can take time off work after attaining certain goals and spend it with loved ones. They also love to help out coworkers in the office!

The 9w8 enneagram does a great job at work when they can fulfill their interpersonal needs such as helping others, understanding their issues and spending time with coworkers. Furthermore, this enneagram likes to lead others in projects and can do this when they do not face any sort of personal conflict – if they do then their performance is affected adversely.

Relationships

Although they can be supportive of their significant other, the 9w8 may sometimes avoid personal conflict and run at the show of emotions. They simplify things and tend to be blunt or stubborn which can hamper their efforts in a relationship.

These enneagram types are very protective of their partners. They do not want them to be hurt in any way and hence try to not only fulfill their needs but ensure no one or anything harms them. The type 8w9 enneagram is one that understands the differences. They wont go on a rant on how stupid a particular culture or belief system is nor will they throw much questions at a person who chooses a certain profession, degree or any type of choice for that case just because they don’t agree with it. Rather they will try to understand why things are that way and how they can be more accepting of it.

Desires & Fears

The basic fear of the type 8w9 enneagram – which extends to women as well – is to be hurt by others. Hence, they like to avoid situations where they are not in control and are at more risk of being let down by others, manipulated or deceived or emotionally damaged. They like to occupy leadership positions that not only gives them the leverage they need but it sends a message to others to not mess with them!

Their basic desire is often expressed when they assert independence from a very young age! They want to be in control of their own future and make decisions that satisfy their needs and wants. This enneagram desires to be independent and resourceful enough to guard themself against threats or any sort of harm!

The 9w8 enneagram is afraid of being separated from others or falling into the bad books of people! They want to be on the good side of people and not get on their nerves. This is why they avoid conflict or disagreement with others so they can be likeable and not the one who tends to ruin things – even if it means hiding the sour truth!

You will see people with this enneagram type backing down from their long held stances just to avoid getting into a fight. Even if they believe in something wholeheartedly or have done much research to easily prove the other person wrong, they will refrain from doing so. They are afraid they will be left alone because of following their own whims and desires or beliefs.

The one thing this enneagram desires is peace – internally and externally. They want to feel content and happy within and they also want to be at peace with those around them. They do not want to face any sort of conflict that will become a source of stress for them and force them to choose one thing over the other.

What happens is that this enneagram tries to attain peace at quite some costs which may work in the short term but will adversely affect this enneagram type in the long run! They often numb their negative feelings so as to avoid erupting into a conflict with others and feeling happy ‘artificially’. They also engage in hectic or repetitive routines to avoid thinking about the problems that bother them.

Conclusion

This article took a deep dive into the differences that exist between the 9w8 and 8w9 enneagram in a number of areas such as strengths, traits, work, relationships and their fears and desires.

If you enjoyed the ”8w9 Vs 9w8” take a look to ”7w8 vs 8w7” too.

References

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