In this blog we will seek to understand why you might be thinking “I don’t care about anything.”
We will also discuss what you can do about it.
I don’t care about anything: why?
Here are a few possible reasons why you can’t seem to car about anything:
- Emotional repression due to stress
- Mental disorders
While being unable to care could mean many things, it is mostly used to describe emotional numbness where the individual is unable to feel anything.
This means the individual is unable to feel worry, care, love etc for people in their lives and the various things that they once thought important. .
This emotional numbness can occur for various reasons, some of which include biological factors such as hormonal imbalances that could be leading to lower affect. It is important that one speak to a doctor to rule out biological causes.
Other possible explanations include psychological and psychiatric factors related to mental disorders and poor mental health. This include:
Individuals who have repressed their emotions or suppressed them deliberately after something negative or traumatic happens to them could feel an emotional deadening inside.
This is often done as a way to protect oneself from the overwhelming emotion one feels, however done too often and for too long might leave the individual’s emotional dead leading to other psychological and social problems.
Mental disorders such as depersonalisation/derealisation disorder, borderline personality disorder, depression, bipolar disorder, schizophrenia etc might also cause this feeling where one of the symptoms is anhedonia or flat affect where the individual is unable to feel their emotions.
Certain medications such as antidepressants can lead to emotional blunting during treatment.
Writers at Harley therapy notes that prolonged social isolation, as in the case of the 2019 pandemic could also lead to an individual feeling disconnected, and lead to psychological problems related to depression which could make them apathetic.
Lack of meaning and purpose
On an existential note, another reason why people might feel dead inside is because they feel like they have no meaning in life and that their life has no purpose with which they are motivated and driven to do and engage with the world around them.
Anhedonia is a mental state where the individual are unable to feel pleasure and ti is generally a symptom of mental disorder seen in depression, bipolar disorder, and substance use.
It is what leads to various behavioural symptoms for people who have depression such as loss of interest in things one was interested in before.
Everyone can feel this way however excessive feelings of apathy and anhedonia are often a sign of a deeper psychological problem.
How does apathy affect your life?
Feeling apathetic or feeling like you dont care any more can lead to various problems in your life and health.
You might lose the motivation to do things that you once found pleasure or enjoyment in and this can lead to feeling low.
Your relationships might suffer because you lost interest in your friendships and other relationships
It might impact your romatic relationships as well as it might also impact your libido and sex drive; this can negatively impact intimacy experiences.
You might have some problems related to emotions, become socially withdrawn, and have a hard time working for things that you loved or are responsible for because of the lack of interest and motivation.
What should I do if I don’t care about anything?
Here are a few things you can consider if you are distressed about not being able to care about anything:
If you have been noticing that these thoughts of not being able to care for others and it has been becoming too frequent and have lasted more than two weeks- it is possible that you have a possible depression diagnosis on your hands if you also exhibit the following symptoms:
- Depressed mood most of the day, nearly every day- either by their own observation or observation made by others.
- Diminished interest or pleasure in all, or almost all, activities most of the day, nearly every day.
- Significant weight loss when not dieting or weight gain, or decrease or increase in appetite nearly every day.
- Insomnia or hypersomnia.
- A slowing down of thought and a reduction of physical movement (observable by others, not merely subjective feelings of restlessness or being slowed down).
- Fatigue or loss of energy nearly every day.
- Feelings of worthlessness or excessive or inappropriate guilt nearly every day.
- Diminished ability to think or concentrate, or indecisiveness, nearly every day. (American Psychological Association, DSM 5)
Emotional numbness can be a sign of anhedonia- which is a symptom of depression and other mental disorders. Your therapist will work with you to deal with your disapir and unhappiness and work towards a healthier state of mental health.
While you might not be depressed, being unable to access your emotions is unhealthy in the long run so find a therapist that you can click with- it takes a few tries- and work with them to learn how to emotionally regulate.
Challenge your negative thoughts
When you come across a thought that is intrusive and distressing like “I don’t care”, don’t suppress it or try to reject it.
Instead acknowledge its existence in your mind and identify them for what they are- intrusive thoughts are not really what you believe in, nor is it something that reflects your desire.
Once you’ve let yourself be with these thoughts, replace these thoughts with something positive, something real. Like
Take time to notice what is happening in the present. Instead of focusing on the what ifs, focus on what is and what you are doing at the moment and who you are in the present.
Do things you enjoy
Now, it is crucial that you experience positive feelings in your daily life according to most positive psychologists.
Positive emotions and experiences are very important for a person to feel better about their lives and their wellbeing. So try to do thighs that you enjoy and make it a priority on your list of daily things.
Take the risk of trying out things that you have pushed aside for so long. This could be you playing with your childhood toys, painting something that you have always wanted to, spending time with your friends, etc.
The goal here is to make sure that you do something that brings you happiness, contentment. You might think to yourself- I don’t have time- here, the challenge is to prioritise yourself first and make time for yourself to enjoy your day.
Re- Evaluate your friendships
Just as you have been reevaluating your choices and your behaviour- another thing that you can do is to reevaluate your relationships.
Seek to understand what fulfils you and what costs you your happiness. Try to objectively identify who in your life gives you meaning and make an effort to invest into these relationships versus pulling away from relationships that leave you drained out and empty.
Here you might have to consider cutting out certain people and also making changes in your life to spend more time with those that truly support and empathise with you.
Seek to accomplish things
Another thing that you can do is to set yourself up to accomplish goals- small and big goals, for yourself or for your community that you are part of.
Accomplishing goals or working towards accomplishing goals that you want to and that which are important to you will give you a sense of purpose and motivation.
Let these goals be something that you truly believe in and work towards them while also rewarding yourself for every small step for achievement that you make towards your goals.
Make positive lifestyle changes
Take care of yourself. Avoid drinking and doing drugs, instead eat a healthy diet that is full of nutrients and engage in exercise- this can be walks, joining the gym, or running a marathon.
Make changes that benefit your physical health as well as allow you to engage with a positive crowd. If you think socialisation is not something you want to do, then there are plenty of exercises that you can do alone.
Make sure you get good sleep by developing a healthy sleep hygiene as well.
Making changes in your life also include making changes at work- this means that you take active effort to change negative work environments, lay off unreasonable demands, create work- life balance, or do something more meaningful.
Mindfulness is a state of being and more proficiently a way of life where the individual actively imagines in the act of cultivating full awareness of the present. It can help you to actively divert your mind from pessimism and focus on more optimistic things in your life.
FAQ related to I don’t care about anything
Is it normal to not care about anything?
No it is not a sign of health if you find yourself being unable to care about anything. It could be indicative of a mental health problem. Everyone can feel this way however excessive feelings of apathy and anhedonia are often a sign of a deeper psychological problem.
Why do I not care about my future?
It is possible that you do not care about your future because you feel hopeless about the future and do not want to actively worry so you tend to emotionally shut down and become apathetic when you think of your future.
Is it normal to get fed up?
It is very normal to get fed up with people, life, your work, your relationships- and this usually happens because of dissatisfaction.
It is this dissatisfaction that is often the cause of someone feeling “fed up” with their lives- the desire to be elsewhere than here- present in their own lives- and this is because they are unhappy with the way things are.
How do I stop caring about everything and everyone?
Create boundaries, Healthy boundaries don’t cut out people; rather they help clarify needs, expectations, improve communication, and lead to overall good functioning mental health.
What is it called when you don’t care about anything?
When you don’t care about anything, you probably are experiencing apathy where you lack motivation to do anything or just don’t care about what’s going on around you.
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