What are Kindred Spirits?

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In this blog we will discuss what Kindred Spirits are. 

We will also discuss what are the signs you have met a Kindred Spirit, whether they are the same as soulmates, and what you can do if you think you have fallen in love with a kindred spirit.

What are Kindred Spirits?

According to the Cambridge Dictionary, a Kindred Spirit refers to 

“…a person who has the same opinions, feelings, and interests as you.”

“Kindred Spirit” is also referred to as “kindred Soul”, according to Dictionary.com, and finds the first few mentions of this term in the Mid 1800s. 

Kindred Spirits refer to people who share similar values, world views, and interests and are able to resonate with each other to such a degree that they experience an almost instant connection. 

Suzanne Weise, an author at mindbodygreen, in her conversation with a clinical psychologist Carla Marie Manly noted that Kindred Spirits are people who are “Like-Minded”; much like the definitions given by Cambridge dictionary- people who have like-minded opinions about themselves, other people, society, etc; as well as like-minded interests- similar interest in things. 

Another element in a relationship between two kindred spirits according to mindbodygreen is that there is an instant connection that cannot be explained and an understanding or empathy shared mutually. 

Someone who is a kindred spirit can be a friend, a family member, a random stranger, and at times a romantic partner- in these kinds of relationships, there is a deep bond that draws these people together and helps maintain this relationship even if they are physically apart. 

What are the signs that one has met their Kindred Spirit?

Here are some signs that you have met your kindred spirit:

You are at peace with them

If you feel at peace when you are with this individual, it is possible that you have met your kindred spirit. They are usually people who help you feel calm and relaxed because of how familiar they are to you.

Because of this familiarity, you are able to feel an immediate sense of belonging because they are able to understand and empathise with you to a deep level and as such you feel understood and accepted. 

You have a lot in common

You might notice that this person and you have a lot in common in the way you think, feel, and behave- you might share similar hopes, dreams, fears, and anxieties as them. 

At times you might feel like you are mirror reflections of each other because of how you share the same kind of interests, values, and the way you view the world is also similar because of which you are able to connect and relate to each other in ways that others simply do not.”

You learn about yourself through them. 

Being with a kindred spirit can help you learn a lot about yourself and the world through them- because of the way you are able to connect openly and without judgement towards each other- this source of support and acceptance can help you develop an acceptance towards yourself as well. 

Your kindred spirit will be someone who will hold up a mirror to you, support you, and empathise with you when things get hard because of which the relationship becomes a safe space for awareness building and acceptance.

You tend to see things the same way.  

You and this person see things the same way and share similar perspectives to the point that you feel a strong resonance with what they talk about and they feel the same way. 

Because you share the same interests and values, your perspectives about what is happening to the world around you as well as yours tend to be similar as well. This means that there is similarity in your outlook on life and viewpoints that you are able to share and validate for each other. 

You can sometimes tell what they’re thinking or feeling. 

Because of how connected you feel to each other and the empathetic relationships that you share with them, you are able to pick up on what they are thinking and feeling without them telling you. 

Your connectedness allows you to pick up on their thoughts about a certain situation and feelings as well simply because you are able to empathise with them as well. 

You feel like you know them right away. 

A key sign that you have met your kindred spirit is that both you and them feel like you have known each other for a long time and that there would be a point in time where you feel like you would have met them in some shape or form anyway. 

You might have the feeling that you know them, and they might feel the same way upon meeting each other for the first time which makes you feel excited for this new relationship. 

They’re a great support system. 

A kindred spirit, because of the deep empathy and similarity that you share with them and they share with you often become great supporters in your life and you tend to do the same for them. 

Because of the similarities that you share and the mutual respect for each other you tend to count on them and they tend to do the same because they are able to understand you and you are able to do the same for them. 

Are Kindred Spirits soulmates?

According to Lonerwolf writer Alethia Luna, Kindred Spirits and Soulmates are two different things. 

Kindred spirits tend to resonate at the same level or frequency as each other whereas a soulmate, according to Luna, are “…people in our lives whom we connect with on a deep level.”

The major difference between the two according to Luna is that Kindred spirits play a more passive role in our personal growth by comforting us and supporting us whereas soulmates tend to play a major role in our personal growth- they are the individuals that bring in healthy conflict that helps each other mature and grow. 

A kindred spirit and a soul mate need not be separate and an individual can be both a kindred spirit and a soulmate to you, however in most cases they are two different people in your lives. 

More than kindred spirits, a soulmate tends to be more opposite to you in terms of the way you lead life, think, feel, and do whereas the kindred spirit is almost the same as you. 

Do Kindred Spirits fall in love?

It is possible that kindred spirits can share a romantic connection. It is possible that you and your partner fall in love because you are kindred spirits and this deep level of shared feelings, thoughts, worldviews, and empathy draws you to them. 

However, at the same time, it is not always the case that Kindred spirits fall in love even if it is possible- rather they are driven by something other than love, something similar to shared respect and shared support for each other. 

The quality of the relationship that kindred spirits share tend to be almost ideal for most people since they are able to have someone who is empathetic, supportive, and non-judgemental which often tempts people to pursue a romantic relationship.

While there is nothing wrong with that, for kindred spirits to share a healthy romantic relationship there is an important issue related to boundaries as so most relationships. 

What to do if you are in love with a Kindred Spirit?

If you are in love with someone whom you regard as a kindred spirit, you are not the first one to feel this way.

Because of the similarities you share with them, it is natural to be attracted to this person because they make you feel safe and supported. 

While most regard Kindred Spirits as co-conspirators, more supportive than actively involved in one’s life- like friends, mentors, peers etc- it is possible to have a romantic relationship with them.

If two kindred spirits are able to maintain healthy boundaries, that they both respect and are able to communicate their romantic needs to each other- it is possible that two kindred spirits will be able to establish a successful romantic relationship.

In the case that either individual is unsure of whether to pursue a romantic relationship with their kindred spirit, the best thing that they can do for themselves and the relationship is to talk about it openly and respectfully. 

While one might be ready to be in a romantic relationship, the other might not- so being able to establish these boundaries between themselves openly and without judgement can be a great place to start. 

Conclusion

In this blog we will discuss what Kindred Spirits are. 

We will also discuss what are the signs you have met a Kindred Spirit, whether they are the same as soulmates, and what you can do if you think you have fallen in love with a kindred spirit.

FAQ related to Kindred Spirits

Are kindred spirits meant to be together?

It is possible that kindred spirits can share a romantic connection. It is possible that you and your partner fall in love because you are kindred spirits and this deep level of shared feelings, thoughts, worldviews, and empathy draws you to them. 

However, at the same time, it is not always the case that Kindred spirits fall in love even if it is possible- rather they are driven by something other than love, something similar to shared respect and shared support for each other. 

Is a kindred spirit the same as a soulmate?

According to Lonerwolf writer Alethia Luna, Kindred Spirits and Soulmates are two different things. 

Kindred spirits tend to resonate at the same level or frequency as each other whereas a soulmate, according to Luna, are “…people in our lives whom we connect with on a deep level.”

The major difference between the two according to Luna is that Kindred spirits play a more passive role in our personal growth by comforting us and supporting us whereas soulmates tend to play a major role in our personal growth- they are the individuals that bring in healthy conflict that helps each other mature and grow.

What is a kindred heart?

Kindred heart refer to people who share similar values, world views, and interests and are able to resonate with each other to such a degree that they experience an almost instant connection. 

Does Kindred refer to family or lover?

Someone who is a kindred spirit can be a friend, a family member, a random stranger, and at times a romantic partner- in these kinds of relationships, there is a deep bond that draws these people together and helps maintain this relationship even if they are physically apart. 

References

kindred spirit. Dictionary.com. Retrieved on 28th Feb 2022. https://www.dictionary.com/browse/kindred-spirit

Kindred Spirit. Cambridge Dictionary. Retrieved on 28th Feb 2022. https://dictionary.cambridge.org/dictionary/english/kindred-spirit

Weiss.S. Kindred Spirits: What They Are & 7 Signs You’ve Found One. Mindbodygreen. Retrieved on 28th Feb 2022. https://www.mindbodygreen.com/articles/kindred-spirits-meaning-and-signs

Luna.A. Soulmates, Twin Flames and Kindred Spirits (Which Have You Met?) LonerWolf. Retrieved on 28th Feb 2022. https://lonerwolf.com/soulmates-twin-flames-kindred-spirits/

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