In this blog we will discuss what a narcissistic man is.
We will also discuss what are the characteristics and signs that indicate a man is narcissistic and how you can deal with a narcissistic man.
What is a narcissistic man?
A narcissist man refers to an individual who may or may not be diagnosed with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) however, appear to behave in patterns that indicate a grandiose sense of self-importance.
A man who is a narcissist tends to crave a need for admiration from other people and also lacks empathy towards others in terms of general conduct. They appear to be self-indulgent and often believe that they are better than everyone.
They also have a belief that they are far superior than other people, this includes beliefs of misogyny and sexism such as men are superior than women, and behave as such. They might belittle other people and criticize them in order to make them feel small.
They carry around a feeling of superiority and often get angered and offended when they are treated with high regard from other people. Experts of the field believe that narcissism is often a result of childhood neglect and abuse or because their parents were overly indulgent with praise.
There has been plenty of research that has been done and is still being conducted to understand what causes Narcissism
Research over time has found that there are a series factors- both based on genetics and the environment- that leads to the development of covert narcissism in adulthood.
Some of these factors include:
- Genetic predisposition
- Childhood neglect
- Childhood trauma such as physical, psychological abuse from parents
- Negative home environment
- Parenting styles that overvalue achievement and emphasize praise or status or authoritarian and permissive parents that focused more on achievement and status.
What are the characteristics of a narcissistic man?
Here are some telling signs and characteristics of a covert narcissist:
- They have a sense of passive self importance and an elevated and grandiose sense of self. They can appear arrogant in the way they interact with other people and purposely minimize others to elevate their own selves or themselves so that people will compliment them or reassure them.
- They seek and crave importance and admiration from those around them and blatantly tell others how great they are and fish for compliments and recognition by highlighting their status, background, or achievements.
- They might use the tactics of blaming or shaming other people to secure their sense of being more important or better than themselves. They might overly criticize people openly and behave rudely.
- They might emotionally manipulate others to gain reassurances and admiration from someone else all the while elevating themselves.
- They might gaslight other people and often they enjoy creating confusion and doubt in other people’s minds and in this way they choose to manipulate and exploit others more as they maintain power by being the “voice of reason”.
- A narcissist man often gives with the agenda to be noticed and praised, they give only when they know that they will be glorified for the prosocial behavior or because they will get something else in return (like commitment from a romantic partner).
- They are emotionally incapable of forming emotional bonds with other people. They are not emotionally accessible and might find it a challenge to understand other people’s hurt.
- Most of the time, for a man who is a narcissist, narcissism is a defense to protect their fragile sense of self and their low self-esteem due to which they are hypersensitive to criticism. They might react very defensively to feedback and behave in a passive aggressive way.
How to deal with a narcissistic man?
Here are a few things that you can do to deal with a narcissistic man:
The first thing you can do is to learn about what narcissism is- by educating yourself about what it is, how narcissistic men behave you can learn about what you can do to protect yourself and, if you choose, to maintain a healthy relationship with them.
Getting yourself educated can protect you from behaviors such as gaslighting, manipulation, and also protect you from reacting in ways that only feed their anger and narcissism.
Make a Choice
Once you understand what a narcissistic man is, you can always choose whether you would like to share a relationship- whatever kind of relationship it is- with this man or you can cut them off.
You have to understand that narcissism is a personality issue, it cannot be cured with medication or simple therapy. It will take a long time for people to work and manage narcissism and the most difficult issue is, most narcissists do not like to be treated for their disorder.
If you choose to leave, there is nothing wrong with your decision- you can do it because you will be protecting yourself. However, if you choose to stay, you will have to work on yourself, the boundaries in the relationship, and at best they need to work on themselves as well because you cannot change them by just staying.
Now, one way to maintain a healthy relationship with a narcissist is to regulate, express, and manage your emotions or the emotions that come up between you two.
It is important that you manage your own emotions by being assertive about it and modeling behavior that allows the narcissistic man also to be open about their own feelings. However, remember that it will be difficult for them to be tetrahedral about their own feelings.
The best way you can manage this is to make sure that their emotions and their words match up to their behavior.
Pick your battles
Now, narcissistic men tend to be overly critical of other people and this might manifest in remarks and insults that are often veiled and while you might want to bite back at them, it is wise for you to respond to what is necessary rather than react to everything they say and do.
Let go of things that you can let go of by understanding that this is simply a manifestation of their insecurities and is a way to help them feel better about themselves. So ignore them when you can for your own good.
Now, it is also important for you and this individual to get the help you both need. You cannot force them into therapy however suggesting it to them when they are in a calm state of mind can be done.
However, what is more important is that you also consider seeking out help to manage your emotions, your anger, and hurt. Therapy can also help you set healthy boundaries with such people, and help you learn to become more assertive.
What is Narcissistic personality disorder?
Narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) is one of the 10 personality disorders that has been recognised by the American Psychological Association in their Diagnostic and statistical manual for mental disorders.
This personality disorder is characterized by an inflated sense of self and an intense need for admiration from others of their own perceived grandiose sense of self.
People with this disorder often struggle with their interpersonal relationships as well as their own perception of their lives and may become genuinely upset when they are not given praise and attention from others because they genuinely believe that they deserve it.
Other’s often see them as conceited, do not enjoy being around them, and are often observed to be demanding and at times emotionally abusive.
In the United States, the prevalence rate is approximately 0.5-5% of the US population based on statistics from community samples.
However, in clinical settings, it is more prevalent between 1-15% and often has high comorbidity with other mental disorders.
Narcissistic personality disorder often coexists with other mental disorders such as other personality disorders such as antisocial personality disorder, borderline personality disorder, histrionic personality disorder, and schizotypal personality disorder which can make the diagnosis of this personality disorder difficult.
People with this type of personality disorder struggle with various types of Narcissism- predominantly two types are common and arise from different childhood experiences and often dictate how they relate to other people and the interpersonal relationships themselves.
- Grandiose Narcissism is the type where people think highly of themselves and tend to be elitist in their behavior.
They are often a result of people who were treated as superior or made to believe that they were superior during their early developmental years due to which these expectations were also carried into adulthood.
Those with grandiose narcissism are often observed to be aggressive, dominant, and tend to exaggerate their importance without much to actually show for.
- Vulnerable Narcissism is another type that is often a result of childhood neglect and abuse where people with this type often use narcissistic behaviors as a way to protect themselves from getting their feelings hurt.
These people are often sensitive and they oscillate between feelings of superiority and inferiority when compared to others and often get offended or anxious when they are not treated with high regard.
In this blog we have discussed what a narcissist man is.
We have also briefly explored what are the characteristics and signs that indicate a man is narcissistic and how you can deal with a narcissistic man.
FAQ related to Narcissistic man
How does a narcissistic man behave?
A narcissistic man will behave in ways that are self-centered, arrogant, and their behaviors will manifest a lack of empathy and consideration for other people.
They might also appear to be cocky, manipulative, selfish, patronizing, and demanding with a deep need to be admired or acknowledged by other people.
What is a narcissistic man in a relationship?
Narcissistic men in a relationship tend to have trouble with empathy for their partner’s feelings which can cause distress and strife in the relationship.
They might also be patronizing, selfish, and manipulative or very controlling of their own partners which stem from their insecurities.
How can you tell if someone is a narcissistic man?
A few signs that indicate that a man might be a narcissistic include:
- Sense of Entitlement.
- Manipulative Behavior.
- Constant need for Admiration and appreciation.
- Lack of Empathy.
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