What is Skolisexual?

This blog post will explore what Skolisexuality is and whether it is a real sexual idenitity. We will also cover topics like what does sexuality mean, and whether there is a measure for sexual orientation. 

We will also explore the issue surrounding labels when it comes to sexuality and how labels tend to play a major role in the acceptance of one’s own sexuality and empowerment.

What is Skolisexual?

Skoliosexuality, sometimes spelled scoliosexuality, is the sexuality where an individual expereices attraction to people who are transgender or nonbinary.

Transgender people are those who identity as a gender that is different to the one they are born with or assigned to at birth. Whereas people who neither identify as a man nor a woman are considered as non-bianary since they do not view themselves as either genders. 

Now, having said that, Skoliosexuality is a term or a label that one uses to identify themselves with when they feel attraction towards people who are either transgender or nonbianary. 

However, over time the term itself has gone through various changes, the term itself popped up in the 2010s, in dictionary.com and later in a page dedicated to gender queer and non-bianary terms. 

The first mention of this particular term was in 2010 on this diagram where it was a term invented for inclusion in a diagram of sexual attraction. Then later, genderqueerid.com defines it as,

“…a potential sexual attraction to non-binary identified individuals.” 

Some say that this label is only for people who feels attractions towards non-bianary where others believe that it is an attraction to anyone who is not cisgender. 

All in all, there is a general consensus that skolisexual is used to refer to an individual who is attracted to people who does not conform to gender expectations regardless of their gender identity.

Is Skolisexual a real sexual identity?

As awareness regarding sexuality and the spectrum that slides across has developed over time, there is a generally understanding that sexualliy is not only limited to the “straight” and the “gays”.

Rather, there is enough awareness in most of the population that there are more than just two genders and more than just two kinds of sexuality. 

Sexualities like Asexual, Deminsexual, and Skolisexual have all received different reactions from the general public because of how different it is to someone who is neither aseuxal or skolisexual. 

Many people have questioned whether these exualtiies are real or are people overlabelling the different kinds of sexualities that one experiences, and whether they are necessary. 

Skolisexual has received a lot of negative backlash because some people regard it as a form of fetishising the Trans and Non-binairy community because the attraction is primarily on their “trans-ness” or “non-bianaryness” which makes it almost like they are being “Other-ed”.

Thus, some people consider the label as discriminatory as well because the attraction specifically relies on whether someone is Transgender or not, as opposed to their gender identity. 

However, at the same time other people consider it to be nothing more than another type of sexual orientation without much of a negtive connotation tied around it. 

While it might be up for debate whether Skolisexual is real or not, there are people who are in a relationship with non-biary and transgender people. Does that make them skolisexual? It depends on how they want to identify as. 

Most people don’t think too much into it, and what involves tier romantic and sexual attraction involves not just festishes but wholistic attraction and regardless of how they label this attraction- as in sexuality, orientiation, and idenitty- they are completely valid. 

As we understand more of sexuality, we also understand that there are many people who do not fit the “norm”, which has led to a huge struggle for them to understand themselves and the world around them.

Using labels such as Skolisexual allows for acknowledgement, validation of their experiences, and empowers people to live the life they truly wish to live rather than living in the dark. 

What is Sexuality?

Sexuality, or sexual orientation refers to whom a person is attracted to romantically or sexualy. It also allows people to understand who they are not attracted to. 

Sexuality is a spectrum and no longer just limited to Gays and straights.- there are many other types of sexuality that cover across gender identities as well. Some people may idetity as one sexual orientationw hile others many identity with more than one at different point in their lives. 

One’s sexualti orientation also includes sexual and romantic attraction where, sexual attraction describes a person’s desire to have a sexual relationship with certian people and encompasses physical attraction. 

On the other hand, romantic attraction describe a person’s expression of love within a relationship that isnt necessarily sexual.

While these two elemebets are at play when it coes to sexual orientation, an individual does not have to have either romantic or sexual attraction- like in the case of people who identify as asexual. 

There are a lot of sexual orientations that has been identified today- skolisexual being one of the more recent ones- and people who identify with one or more may find that their sexuality changes over time and is fluid. 

Is there a measure for sexual identity?

One of the earliest measurs for sexual identiy was the Kinsey Scale, which was first published in 1948, created by Dr. Alfred Kinley. 

The Scale attempted to define a person’s sexual and romantic orientation and was known as the  Heterosexual-Homosexual Rating Scale and was developed on the basis that sexual orientation is fluid and as a result of reports that people were identifying neither as heterosexual or homosexual. 

The scale rates people based on six ratings, with an additional category:

0: Exclusively heterosexual

1: Predominantly heterosexual, only incidentally homosexual

2: Predominantly heterosexual but more than incidentally homosexual

3: Equally heterosexual and homosexual

4: Predominantly homosexual but more than incidentally heterosexual

5: Predominantly homosexual, only incidentally heterosexual

6: Exclusively homosexual

x: No socio-sexual contacts or reactions

Though it was a breakthrough in understanding sexuality in the early years of research. Over time, there has been many criticisms that the Kinsey Scale has been subjected to and various limitations of the scales have been acknowledged as of today. 

Some of these limitations include:

  • The Kinsey Scale does not account for all orientations that have been identified today.  While it can be useful for people who identify as straight, gay, bisexual, and to a lesser extent, asexual, it may not be helpful for others such as people who identify as Skolisexual. 
  • The Kinsey Scale only assumes the gender identity of the person and measures attraction towards the opposite or same sex or gender based on a cis-gender perspective of the person under assessment. This scale thus exclude people who are nonbinary, transexuals, and those who reject gender all together. 
  • Because the kinley scale only acknowledge that people may feel more or less attracted to people of the same or opposite gender or sex- it reduces or does not acknowelddge other orientations. Rather it generalizes those orientation to simply straight, gay, bisexual, or asexual. 
  • Another limitation of the scale is the fact that the scale has only 6 orientations that it provides which excludes many other people who do not fit the six orientations. 
  • Another criticism was the fact that people may not feel comfortable with identifying with a number and a category. The numbers would infact dehumanise the individuals especially when the scale limits sexual orientation to only 6 types. 

Are labels important?

For an individual who has been struggling with their identity as an individual, labels become a powerful force of identity and self awareness. 

A person’s sexual and gender identity plays a iatal role in the way they see themselves, how they present themselves to the world around them, how they would like to be acknowledged, and how they live their lives. 

This, to a person who has beens struggling without awareness of what they like and how they want their lives to be, can become a beacon of hope for their journey to understand thebes as people. 

People may feel that labelling their sexuality helps them deal with any oppression and help them find a community in which they experience a sense of belongingness and shared support. 

Thus labels can be regarded as giving ourselves permission to declare to the world what we are, who we choose to love and care for, and also helps us build communities. 

However, one must understand that People do not necessarily need to identify as one type of sexual orientation because sexual orientation can change over time. 

They also need not sit under just one label or just one term if they find that that is not what they want- regardless of what they choose to refer to themselves as, their existence and experiences as still valid. 

Conclusion

This blog post have explored what Skolisexuality is and whether it is a real sexual idenitity. We have also covered topics like what does sexuality mean, and whether there is a measure for sexual orientation. 

We have also explored the issue surrounding labels when it comes to sexuality and how labels tend to play a major role in the acceptance of one’s own sexuality and empowerment.

FAQ related to What is Skolisexual?

What are the 5 components of sexuality?

The five components of sexuality according to advocatesforyouth.org are : sensuality, intimacy, identity, behaviour and reproduction and sexualization.

What is the importance of sexuality?

Sexuality is important because it represents an activity that is a milestone or signifier towards adulthood while also reinforcing our roles and aspirations as people

What does sexuality mean in a relationship?

In a healthy relationship, sexuality is a positive and powerful force that can deepend intimate connections and understanding of each other. 

Sexuality is a state of being and connecting, it is also understood as a shared experience that can bring about more intimacy and connection in the relationship. 

Why is it important to learn about gender and sexuality?

Gender and sexuality are important forces that shape every aspect of our lives. We understand our bodies, minds and selves through our gender and our sex which makes it an importan aspect of identiyt as well. 

This becomes an important issue to learn about and understand as a society because it is not only about identity and the self but also because there are legal definitions and social expectations based on gender and sexuality. 

References

Ferguson.S. What Does It Mean to Be Skoliosexual? Healthline. 28th June, 2019. Retrieved on 11th Dec 2021. https://www.healthline.com/health/skoliosexual

What Is Skoliosexuality? WebMD. 13 th October, 2020. Retrieved on 11th Dec 2021. https://www.webmd.com/sex/what-is-skoliosexuality

Zambon.V. What are different types of sexualities? Medicalnewstoday. 19th October 2020. Retrieved on 11th Dec 2021. 

https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/types-of-sexuality

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