Twin flame separation (A complete guide)

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In this article we will discuss what a twin flame separation is and what you can do if you experience this separation. 

We will also explore what is a twin flame and what are some causes of the twin flame separation including what occurs during this stage.

What is twin flame separation?

A twin flame separation is a stage in a relationship between two people who consider themselves as twin flames. This stage is marked by a period of separation between the two people, usually by choice. 

This separation typically occurs after the honeymoon phases that occur a few months into meeting each other. 

Once the excitement of meeting each other is over and the reality of each individual slowly reveals itself- the twin flames can go through a period of insecurities and attachment problems leading to this period of separation. 

During this period of separation there will be push and pulls, where people will begin to withdraw from the intensity of the relationship and even abandon the other. 

There is a possibility that this period of separation will resolve itself with a reunion however, that might take time and effort to do so. Their reunion will be healthier and more fruitful if they have both taken time to work on themselves individually.

What to do if you have experienced a twin flame separation?

Here are a few things you can do if you are experience a period of separation from your twin flame:


You also have to understand that separation of any kind is a difficult experience and if you are struggling with the separation, allow yourself to grieve through the loss of someone who seemed to have been the perfect fit for you. 

Take moments to reflect on the loss and the emotions that arise due to this loss and accept them without judgement as you are a human being with emotions and it is very natural to experience grief even if it is without actual natural death. 

Work on yourself

While the separation  between twin flames may not be permanent, it is a time for each individual to focus on themselves and prioritize their own growth and self- love. 

This means that you need to work on finding yourself- understanding who you are, what your needs are, and what patterns of behavior you engage in. 

This also means that you will have to learn to abandon harmful patterns of thought, feelings, and behaviors and adapt healthier ones while also understanding and learning how to be happy on your own. 

Learn to be happy with yourself

This is quite crucial in terms of growing as a person is to learn how to be happy by our own individual self instead of being reliant on another person within the relationship to make you happy. 

Learning how to do things that make you happy, engage in reflection and learn how to be content with yourself is a major aspect of learning how to be happy with yourself. 

Learn to be alone

Now another aspect of growing during this period of separation is to learn how to be alone without being lonely. 

This means being able to sit with your emotions, practice how to live independently from other people instead of rushing into relationships or seeking validation all the time for others is another challenge that you must meet during this time. 

What is a twin flame?

While the term twin flame dates as far back as to Plato, it was popularised by Elizabeth Clare Prophet, a leader of the Summit Lighthouse and the New Age religion known as The Church Universal and Triumphant, in her 1999 book “Soul Mates and Twin Flames: The Spiritual Dimension of Love and Relationships.”

Twin flames are considered to be two halves of two different individuals. They refer to two people who tend to have similar strengths and limitations, and feel intensely connected with each other in terms of shared experiences.

A twin flame connection involves  two people who have a deep soul connection and have similar life paths, experiences, and sometimes similar trauma.

A twin flame relationship tends to have a few defining characteristics. These characteristics has been streamlined by Bellefonds for healthline:

  • sense that you’re meeting yourself
  • multiple similarities, sometimes uncanny
  • deep connection
  • desire to grow
  • prioritization of growth over being in a relationship
  • the meeting signifies a major change in your life

Why do twin Flame separations happen?

A few reasons or factors that cause twin flame separations include:

  • Psychological and spiritual immaturity of both or either individuals which causes low emotional intelligence within the individuals causing strife and issues within the relationship.

The separation largely occurs due to individual struggles of identity, inability to manage and cope with our emotions and those of others. 

Because of immaturity, they will lack communication and understanding of each other’s needs and cause problems related to stubbornness and magnitude of the ego of each individual.

  • Lack of self love and respect also tends to be another issue that hinders the smooth functioning of a twin flame relationship and any other relationship. 

Without the love for oneself, either of the individuals can project their negative evaluations of themselves and the world onto their other person that can lead to hurt and anger.

Because there is a lack of self love, there is also a lack of respect for themselves and the boundaries of each other leading to problems within the relationship. 

  • Another cause of this separation could be because you still have a lot more to learn- that the life experiences that you have faced are not enough. 

That means you need to enter other relationships, establish new friendships, or expand your life experience (travel, volunteer, get a new job) before you’re ready to take on a relationship with a twin flame.

  • Healing needs to occur because your twin flame might have entered your life when you are suffering immensely as a result of loss, abuse, and other forms of tragedy. 

This can lead you to be emotionally not ready to open up and accommodate another person in your life and separation might be needed for you to heal. 

What happens during a twin flame separation?

When you are experiencing a twin flame separation, you will most likely experience the following situations or “symptoms”:

  • Inner conversations with your twin flame. This means that you will be having more conversations with them in your head like they are standing with you or conversing with you- basically preoccupation with them and their wellbeing during this time of separation. 

During emotionally charged times this will often be reflected by your mirror soul meaning that they will also have you popping into their minds even if they do not understand why. 

  • You will also dream about them during physical separation and it will be an opportunity to communicate with them and also bring you and them in a much closer space of understanding the reasons for separation. 

If you’re more spiritually advanced then you’ll start remembering more and more of your conversations and actions together in dreams. 

  • You will also feel their presence of being right next to you and might also feel comfort by it or even by the small reminders of their existence and the impact they have had on your life. 

Some people describe it as  an actual physical sensation of their flame holding them or just standing next to them. Others feel shivers during this stage as well. 

  • Twin Flame Separation Sickness where you feel a complete lack of energy, apathy or even physical illness directly after a separation is triggered.

This happens after the emotional outburst or without it as well where the person becomes totally numb to their own emotions and is a result of denying their own feelings and the experience of loss. 


In this article we have discussed what a twin flame separation is and what you can do if you experience this separation. 

We have also explored what is a twin flame and what are some causes of the twin flame separation including what occurs during this stage.


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FAQs about twin flame separation

How long does twin flame separation last?

How long a twin flame separation lasts, it depends on the couple, as each experience is individual. Some say that on average, the separation lasts 1 to 2 years.

But that is not necessarily true, as we cannot really know how much two people will be separated. It may last a year, it may last several years. Or less… 

Why does twin flame separation hurt so much?

Twin flame separation hurts as much as any other separation.

When we break up with someone we start a grieving process, we are reminded that we are forever and we can even be easily replaced.

It is especially hard to break up with someone you truly feel you have a special connection with.

Do twin flames have to go through separation?

Sometimes twin flames have to go through separation as their encounter is hard to manage, in the first place.

For some, it is said to be too much, too difficult to handle. However, there is no general rule. It really depends on what type of souls they are. 

Can Twin Flames be toxic?

Twin flames can be toxic, but so can any other types of relationships.

Sometimes we can’t seem to understand one person, no matter how hard we try or how many sacrifices we make.

You have to know that sometimes it is better to let one go. And perhaps you will meet again, in different circumstances, as different people.

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