What are some examples of unconditional positive regard?

In this blog we will discuss some unconditional positive regard examples. 

We will also briefly touch upon what unconditional positive regard is, what are the benefits of unconditional positive regard, and how one can apply unconditional positive regard in one’s day to day life. 

What are some examples of unconditional positive regard?

Here are some examples of unconditional positive regard:

Example 1

The client might bring up thoughts, feelings, and behaviours that are considered morally wrong or unacceptable by society- for example, deep anger and hatred towards their own child.

Now instead of judging the client or pointing out how wrong these thoughts are the therapist will choose to understand what is making them feel that way. This is what unconditional positive regard is, to seek to understand their point of view for what they are and in that way accept the client as they are. 

In the process, the therapist might help the client explore their feelings and their thoughts and eventually, still regarding the client as someone who is worth supporting in spite of their unacceptable thoughts, the client and the therapist can work together to develop a plan as to how the client can overcome these thoughts. 

Example 2

Another example is when the therapist and the client have come up with a plan to help them manage their cravings for a certain substance and work on maintaining sobriety. 

However, the client falls off the wagon and is back in the session. Instead of chiding the client for what they have done, a therapist who has unconditional positive regard will try to understand what happened, what went wrong, help the client understand what they can do better, why it is important for them to abstain from these substances all the while making the client feel loved, cared for, and supported.

Example 3

Now, another example of unconditional positive regard in action is how the therapist who has unconditional positive regard for their client models this attitude for the client to adopt eventually.

This is not explicitly mentioned; rather than conditionally hoping their client in a positive regard, the therapist models this attitude by showing that the client is accepted, loved,a dn cared for regardly of what they do.

This modelling, if done right, can help the client also develop the same regard for themselves.

What is unconditional positive regard?

Unconditional positive regard is an attitude that an individual has that consists of complete acceptance and love for yourself as well as for other people. 

This kind of attitude involves an ability to view anyone, regardless of their past, present, and future as solely human and inherently worthy of love, support, and acknowledgement. 

A person who has unconditional positive regard for other people views others as inherently human and that there is nothing that they can do that can make them seem anyless and that they are accepted on a much deeper level than just their behaviours and choices. 

This idea of unconditional positive regard was first introduced by Carl Rogers, a humanistic psychologist who introduced it as a  defining feature of client-centred therapy where the client is accepted and supported irrespective of what they do, choose to do, or say in the sessions. 

It was crafted with the purpose of helping the therapist build a positive and trusting relationship between client and therapist and involves expressing empathy and support, as well as being accepted for who the client is inherently.

Unconditional Positive reward, in therapy, involves validating their clients’ feelings, being non-judgement, and offering support irrespective of what comes up in sessions. In therapy, problematic behaviours are not confronted or criticised but rather they are met with compassion and acceptance, 

Rather than the therapist judging and criticising the clients, the therapist- with empty- seeks to understand the client’s point of view and also offer them support as the client themselves develop self-acceptance and move towards change. 

It is the belief that many humanistic therapists have, that human beings are wired to self-actually, to progress and meet our potential that forms the basis of this concept. 

The theorists such as Rogers believe that the lack of unconditional regard is what stops our growth towards self-actualisation and that by allowing this to come into play in therapy and provide such an environment, it helps the individual back on track towards reaching their potential. 

What are the benefits of Unconditional Positive Regard?

According to the writers of Nirandfar, unconditional positive regard does have a lot of positive effects on an individual. These include:

It fosters self-actualization

Unconditional positive regard with ourselves and within relationships can help people reach their highest potentials and this is one of the reasons of Carl Rogers, who came up with the concept. 

Unconditional positive regard provides relationships with a space that encourages openness, creativity, and honesty and that is what fosters self-actualization.

It can encourage people to pursue goals and also help develop resilience because the space provided to them through unconditional regard is what encourages them to embrace change and cultivate meaning. 

It breeds self-confidence

When an individual has positive self-regard and unconditional positive regard for others it can help boost confidence in themselves as well as other people.

By allowing acceptance, unconditional support and openness in relationships, it can help people understand that they are worthy of positive things, of support, and that there is goodness in them- thai can help people feel more confident about who they are and what they are capable of. 

Unconditional positive regard can bolster motivation

There have been studies that suggest that Unconditional positive regard is beneficial in the workplace as it can increase motivation and hence performance. 

Studies have found that when there is positive regard that allows employees to feel valued, respected, and accepted, it can help them, in terms of better performance and job satisfaction. 

It is also the environment and culture of acceptance and support that is brought by cultivating unconditional positive regard for each other that there is a better sense of collaboration and workplace morale. 

It can foster authenticity

People who have positive unconditional regard for themselves and others are more likely to be open to other people, inclusive, and are accepting of who they are for what they are as well as accepting of people just as they are. 

This allows for people to be accepting of their own sleeves, their limitations and their strengths which allows them to live authentic lives at the same time when they have this attitude in their relationships, the relationships tend to be authentic as well. 

How can you apply Unconditional Positive Regard to Your Own Life?

According to Julie Jordan Scott, writer for HarleyTherapy, here are a few ways that you can actively include unconditional positive regard in your own interactions with other people in your life:

  • View people as capable individuals who have internal resources such as knowledge and skills to figure things out by themselves. 
  • Suspend judgement and work actively to challenge biases that are deeply rooted to the point that it is almost subconscious. Challenge these biases and be mindful about how they affect your interaction with others. 
  • Listen actively when other people come to you or talk to you rather than being inside your own head, try to understand what is being said.
  • Allow others to be who they are and avoid using phrases like ‘that’s wrong’ or ‘you’re wrong’. This will require you to empathise with them- and empathy at times does not come natural however to be positively regarding time is to challenge yourself to understand things from their point of view. 
  • Allow yourself to be different as unconditional positive regard should not only be with regards to other people but also towards yourself, first and foremost. This means that you be aware of how judgemental you are about yourself and instead of critically evaluating yourself all the time, allow yourself to be. 
  • Practise self-compassion and be kind to yourself just like you would be for others. Having unconditional positive regard also means that you are kind to yourself even when things are very difficult and everything is pointing you towards self-blame. 

Conclusion

In this blog we have discussed some unconditional positive regard examples. 

We have also briefly touched upon what unconditional positive regard is, what are the benefits of unconditional positive regard, and how one can apply unconditional positive regard in one’s day to day life.

What is meant by unconditional positive regard?

Unconditional positive regard is an attitude that an individual has that consists of complete acceptance and love for yourself as well as for other people. 

This kind of attitude involves an ability to view anyone, regardless of their past, present, and future as solely human and inherently worthy of love, support, and acknowledgement. 

A person who has unconditional positive regard for other people views others as inherently human and that there is nothing that they can do that can make them seem anyless and that they are accepted on a much deeper level than just their behaviours and choices. 

How do you demonstrate unconditional positive regard?

A few ways you can demonstrate unconditional positive regard includes:

  • Being accepting of other people
  • Being non judgemental
  • Being supportive
  • Empathising and understanding their point of view.
  • BViewing others as capable of handling their own lives.

What did Carl Rogers believe?

Rogers believed that human beings are wired to self-actually, to progress and meet our potential that forms the basis of this concept. 

The theorists such as Rogers believe that the lack of unconditional regard is what stops our growth towards self-actualisation and that by allowing this to come into play in therapy and provide such an environment, it helps the individual back on track towards reaching their potential. 

Unconditional positive regard of oneself is very important for an individual to develop acceptance of themselves. It is this acceptance- that they are worthy of love, of progress, and of good things that can lead to change and hence personal growth. 

How is unconditional positive regard used in Counselling?

Unconditional Positive reward, in therapy, involves validating their clients’ feelings, being non-judgement, and offering support irrespective of what comes up in sessions. In therapy, problematic behaviours are not confronted or criticised but rather they are met with compassion and acceptance, 

Rather than the therapist judging and criticising the clients, the therapist- with empty- seeks to understand the client’s point of view and also offer them support as the client themselves develop self-acceptance and move towards change. 

References

Unconditional Positive Regard -What It Is and Why You Need It. HarleyTherapy. Retrieved on 21st Feb 2022.https://www.harleytherapy.co.uk/counselling/unconditional-positive-regard-what-it-is-and-why-you-need-it.htm

Unconditional Positive Regard. Goodtherapy. Retired on 21st Feb 2022. https://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/psychpedia/unconditional-positive-regard

The Surprising Benefits of Unconditional Positive Regard. NirandFar. Retired on 21st Feb 2022. https://www.nirandfar.com/upr-unexpected-benefits-beyond-therapy/

Ackerman.C. What is Unconditional Positive Regard in Psychology? Positive psychology Retrieved on 21st Feb 2022.https://positivepsychology.com/unconditional-positive-regard/#:~:text=%E2%80%9CI%20approve%20of%20my%20child,they%20are%20meant%20to%20be.%E2%80%9D

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