What does it mean if you dream about someone?

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In this blog we will answer the question “What does it mean if you dream about someone?”

What does it mean if you dream about someone?

If you dream about someone, most researchers in the field believe that the dream is a reflection of your unconscious aspects of yourself, your daily life, and your relationships. 

It is widely believed that dreams are an unearthing of unconscious feelings, thoughts, and ideas about one’s self that are brought to the surface as one sleeps rather than it being about someone else. 

One might think that dreams have specific meanings and that dreaming of someone could indicate some connection with respect to the relationships, however there is no definite answer to what these dreams about someone else could mean. 

According to Meir H. Kryger, MD, physician and professor at the Yale School of Medicine and editor of Principles and Practice of Sleep Medicine, wrote in his article “Do Your Dreams Have Meaning?” That research into dreams started as early as 300 BC with Aristotle who wrote about his own dreams. 

It was further pushed into the mainframe of psychological research with the  introduction of psychoanalysis in the 1800s. Kryger believes that with researchers into the field of sleep and dreams, many experts have also tried to discern the interpretation of dreams. 

He stresses that interpretation of dreams is often interpreted differently by different experts who function on different paradigms. He notes that there is “a diversity in thinking about dreams.” and that interpretation of dreams cannot be concluded with utmost surety because “There may not be a right answer.”

Interpretation of dreams, even when you dream of someone else, depends on popular symbolism that is used to interpret the dream either by a psychoanalysis or by a pop culture expert. 

You dreaming about someone can have different meanings and that does not mean that they are thinking of you or that they are also dreaming of you, rather that it is a peek into your own unconscious thoughts and feelings.

Let us take a look at what your unconscious mind is trying to tell you when you have a dream about another.

Dreaming about someone you know

If you are dreaming of someone you know, it most probably means that it is a manifestation of your unconscious mind and the person in the dream is a representation of various aspects of your own self, thoughts, and feelings. 

It is most possible that the qualities of the person that you are dreaming of are also qualities that you see in yourself. For example, you notice that the person in the dream is anxious about something, this could be a manifestation of your own anxieties. 

Dreaming about someone you used to know

If you dreamt about someone you used to know, Psychologist John Mayer notes that it is most probably a manifestation of what you have seen in your daily life. 

It is possible that you have come across someone who looks like the person you used to know or you have come across a song or a sight or smell that you acquaint them with, without even realising it but your mind stored the information regardless. 

Dreaming about someone you used to date

Dreaming about your ex can be emotionally challenging, irrespective of whether you are with someone new or whether you are single. 

Kelly Sullivan Walden, author of Love, Sex, Relationship Dream Dictionary revealed to Bustle that dreaming of an ex could be because you have come across something or some part of yourself that acquaits yourself to them or because it si also part of moving forward from the relationship or a manifestation of unresolved issues. 

Fr example, you might start dreaming of your ex as you start to open yourself up to new people, start going on dates etc because you are still working on moving forward from the past and all these emotions and thoughts can manifest in the form of dreams as well.

Dreaming about someone you don’t know at all

It happens to almost everyone, dreaming about someone that you do not know at all. This could be because of various reasons. 

One reason being you come across the person in public without even realising it but your brain has the ability to note any information even if you are unaware of it. 

However, this is not always the case. Neuroscientist Patrick McNamara reviewed an older study on dreaming about strangers for Psychology Today and noted that dreaming of strangers who are men occur more than dreaming of strangers who are women or children. 

McNamara also reiterated that Male strangers tend to be an unconscious representation of aggressive impulses and that they are more about one’s own impulses rather than what we observe and experience in our everyday life. 

Dreaming about losing someone

Dreaming about losing someone in the dream where you lose track of them can mean different things depending on who you lose. If you dream of losing a child, it can refer to one losing or ignoring childlike qualities of the self. 

If the person you lose is your spouse, it could refer to an unconscious fear that you are emotionally disconnected from your partner or it could also refer to losing a part of yourself. 

Dreaming about someone dying

Dreaming of death can be frightening but it is ot necessarily a bad sign or a sign that the person will die rather it could be an unconscious representation of one’s feelings and thoughts upon entering a new phase of their life that is life changing.

It can be a representation of those fears and anxieties of the unknown or one’s discomfort with uncertainty. 

Dreaming about someone chasing you

Dreams about being chased by someone could refer to anxieties and fears related to something in your life that you are refusing to acknowledge or are in denial of. 

For example, if you notice that you are being chased by someone holding a baby, it could be because you are in denial of your own biological clock ticking away.

It could also represent aspects of yourself that you are embarrassed about and as a result are in denial of or “running away” from. 

Dreaming about someone pregnant

If you are dreaming of someone pregnant, it could be representing something that is about to start or the start of something new in your life. 

If you dream that you are pregnant it could be a representation of some new plans you have in mind in the back of your head. According to Ally Mead for Hufflepost, if you notice that someone else is pregnant it could be a representation of something that is unexpressed or undone. 

Dreaming about someone in the family

 Dreaming about your family members does not necessarily have to do with the person itself but rather it could be a manifestation of what you desire based on the qualities you attribute to them. For example, if you dream of your mother you might be in need of emotional nurturance and guidance. 

Dreaming about someone cutting your hair

If you dream that someone is cutting your hair, it could be a representation of you losing control over parts of yourself or your life and also losing strength- this is often brought on when you are under a lot of stress. 

Dreaming about having sex with someone

If you have sex dreams realted to someone, it is mostly symbolic and this does not mean that you have sexual interests towards that person per se. 

Lcensed psychologist and certified sex therapist, Janet Brito, explained to Healthline, that sex dreams reveal emotional needs that you wish to be fulfilled in your waking life. However in some cases it does not mean much other than just high libido and sexual frusration. 

Dreaming about someone you work with

If you are dreaming about your coworkers, it is mostly a representation of yourself rather than about them. It is a reflection of your unconscious aspects of yourself, your daily life, and your relationships. 

It is widely believed that dreams are an unearthing of unconscious feelings, thoughts, and ideas about one’s self that are brought to the surface as one sleeps rather than it being about someone else. 

Dreaming about the same person repeatedly

If you are dreaming of someone repeatedly it is most probable that there are some unresolved issues within the relationship between you and that person or it could be that there are parts of your life that are unresolved that you associate with that person. 

For example, if the person is a coworker stressing your out in the dream repeatedly  it could be that it is indicative of you are stressed out at work or overburdened.

Dreaming about someone drowning

If you dream of yourself drowning it could be an indication that you are feeling overwhelmed but the situation and circumstances around you- leaving you to a sense of loss of control and loss of self.

However, according to DreamMoods.com. If you see someone else drown, it could mean that you are emotionally involved in something that you have no control over. 

Dreaming about marrying someone

If you have a dream about marrying someone it is most probable that you are stressed about the notation of getting married or it is an indication of you needing something in your life that is represented by the quality of the person you are marrying in your dream. 

For example, if you dream of marrying someone stable, stabilit could be something that you unconsciously desire. 

If you dream of marrying someone else, even if you are married, it could be a sign of marital dissatisfaction according to Dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg.

Conclusion

In this blog we will answer the question “What does it mean if you dream about someone?” in various contexts. 

References

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Emery. L.R. Here’s What It Means If You Can’t Stop Dreaming About Your Ex. Bustle. Retrieved on 15th March 2022. https://www.bustle.com/p/what-do-recurring-dreams-about-ex-mean-heres-what-your-subconscious-is-trying-to-tell-you-17910448

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