Why Am I Attracted To My Sister (7 Reasons)

This article will take a look at the reasons why you may be attracted to your sister and also discuss the topic of taboo relationships in detail.

Why Am I Attracted To My Sister – 7 Reasons

Here are 7 reasons why you may be attracted to your sister:

  • Accepting Yourself
  • A Defense Mechanism
  • Bad Experiences
  • A Mental Disorder
  • You Are Hormonal
  • Proximity
  • A Strange Case

Let us take a look at them in detail!

Accepting Yourself

The first reason why people may identify as a different gender is because that is how they truly are. They may be a man but they actually feel like a woman or they may be a woman but they do not get that entire feminine feeling other women experience. As a society and possibly as a species, we are comfortable with things being in black and white; if we need a response then we need it in either a ‘Yes’ or ‘No – anything in between confuses us. If we want to know who is right we do not want to get into the complexities or accept the fact that both sides in a fight may actually be right especially if they are looking at things from their own angle.

Similarly, if we are assigned a female gender at birth then we expect that this specific person will feel like a woman their entire life. However, keeping in mind how complex this world is, it should not be surprising if someone feels this way and decides to acknowledge it.

A Defense Mechanism

Just as the world is complex, so is our body and hence we sometimes engage in very odd or strange behaviours to deal with stress or anxiety. We may become an entirely different person compared to who we were before!

In this case, it is possible someone may identify as a woman even though they are a man because they are unable to deal with the stresses of being a man in their culture, society or nation. They may be disgusted by what men or women in their society do and hence they will associate with the opposite gender.

Nonetheless, in this scenario where a person may become attracted to their sister, this can be because of a defense mechanism their body is using to cope with extreme stress and anxiety that arises from external relations or other people in the family.

Bad Experiences

Sometimes we have bad experiences with people and because society has put so many restrictions on us we find ways to evade our problems and create a better world for our own selves. Many times, men and women have a hard time in relationships with the other gender; they may be ghosted, cheated on or divorced despite being a good partner. 

The blow they receive from such an experience may be so devastating that they either begin to hate the other gender or their own gender; afterall, in such situations you need to blame someone because this is human nature. Thus, they may decide to explore new options; one of these options is to be with someone very close and whom they can trust because they have known them for all their life; yes, they decide to be with their sister and hence in the process they may start finding her attractive.

A Mental Disorder

In the past, feeling something like this was considered a mental disorder despite the fact that what people felt may have definitely been genuine. Sometimes we become the prey of serious mental conditions that affect how we behave or think. In some cases, people may begin hearing or seeing things that do not exist. In serious cases people have even begun speaking different languages. In other cases they may have adopted various personalities at the same time or an entirely different one. Although there is nothing wrong with such behaviours if they were naturally occurring, they are not appropriate because they are the result of a mental disorder. So for example, there is nothing wrong with speaking a different language but if it occurs because of a mental disorder then there is an issue.

Hence, you may be affected by a mental disorder that not only affects your chemicals that are present in your body but also affects the way you think and feel towards others; in this case it makes you feel attracted to your sister. This mental disorder may have come about bad experiences in your life and the only person you feel comfortable around is her.

You Are Hormonal

Hormones can drive us crazy to the extent we can do anything to control them. The effect they have on us is just like drugs! It is possible you are experiencing a high hormonal imbalance in your body to the extent that you even find your sister attractive!

This may be a good idea to get yourself tested and figure out whether it is a chemical imbalance in your body that is making you think and feel funny.


Many people confuse attraction and love with close proximity. This is often why arranged marriages seem to work perfectly well in the start but later break down. The reason behind this is not only do you have any other options but in societies where arranged marriages are common, it is less common to actually have choices or choose someone for yourself. Hence, as soon as you come across a possible option that is somewhat interesting to you, you become ecstatic; not because you are in love but because it is something new to you.

Similarly, you may be attracted to your sister because you actually have no other real options or women around you. This may be because you live in a far off area where there are not really any girls around or your parents are so strict that they don’t let you go near such opportunities; they may think this is protecting you but it is actually messing you up!

A Strange Case

In some cases, it is possible you are actually attracted to your sister just because she is good looking. There are strange cases in the world where people fall in love with a very close family member and engage in extremely close and possibly uncomfortable relations – at least for the rest of us!

Hence, it is possible you are just one of those cases in the world and want to be with your sister not only because she is attractive but you genuinely want to be with her.

Taboo Relationships – What Are They?

Taboo relationships are relationships that are considered inappropriate by society. This means that such relationships go against the norms and values of the society a person lives in whether or not there is a good enough reason to support such a thing.

Taboo relationships may involve any type of relationship where someone may be having an affair with a divorced person or simply dating their own teacher from high school. The relationship is taboo based on which society it comes from. Thus, a relationship may be considered taboo in one society but not taboo in another. 

A good example would be that of cousin marriages. In western countries such as the UK and the United States, cousin marriages are considered taboo to the extent that most people are disgusted by the mention of it! However, in eastern countries this is a common practice where cousins often get married to each other.

A taboo connection might range from incest to a single person having an affair with a divorced person; as long as it is not permitted in that culture, it is termed a taboo relationship.

Historically, taboo relationships have been defined as a love that defies culturally imposed behavioral norms by transforming into a “hidden love” that the rest of the world should be unaware of.

However, many of the taboo relationships of the past are no longer taboo now.

In contrast, others, such as interracial dating in America, are not formally outlawed but can be tacitly repressed further as Western society progresses along a socially libertine path.

Types of Taboo Relationships – 9 Examples

Here are the relationships that are considered taboo:

  • Your Grandmother
  • The Neighbor Next Door
  • A Work Colleague
  • Someone From Another Religion
  • Your Ex’s Sibling
  • Your Friend’s Sibling
  • Doctor Patient Relationship
  • Teacher Student Relationship
  • A Married Person


This article took a look at 7 reasons why someone may be attracted to their sister and also commented on other taboo relationships that are becoming more and more common in the world.